Everyone has ego. Behind that ego are insecurities. It is a psychological defence mechanism people build for themselves as they go through challenging situations in life. Never seek to “conquer” other people’s insecurities or yours. Always seek to understand first. You cannot change what you do not understand. Be kind.
The ego is not a static thing – nor are people – it can morph, evolve, grow bigger, smaller. But most people do not know their own egos well, and are unaware when their ego acts up or the consequences. When it acts up, people usually stops listening, become emotionally charged, just want to be heard, vent, or even have emotional outbursts, walk away from communicating or become silently withdrawn from any other communication with others.
Those are good signals to take note of, to pause and pay attention to their reaction objectively, non-judgmentally. And your own – does your ego reacts to other people’s too? When does it react? How does it react? Why?
We cannot runaway from dealing with egos or people in life, think of these situations as providing valuable information about the emotional and mental limitations that stop people growing on the inside.
Then we can build and enlarge the compassionate space within ourselves to learn how to overcome these limitations, to view them from more compassionate perspectives – to keep us growing from the inside and be a better person.